Today like any other day I went through all my personal email. I was catching up on what happened over the weekend and I stumbled upon an article from Refinery 29. The article was talking about how every women should love their own body. It went on to say that about 2 out of 3 people aren’t satisfied with their body.
It’s sad that not loving our self is a common thing. I know so many people who are soooo beautiful but yet aren’t happy with themselves.
For the longest time I was looking for a way to accept myself and be happy. I bought books about self-love and even went to a weekly workshop with other women. I think I became unhappy with myself around the age 10. I was the girl who was too tall and had big feet. During my preteen years I was so awkward. I hated jeans and since I had no boobs I wore baggy clothes. I did everything to blend in because standing out and having others attention freaked me out.
I was that quiet girl who never said a word in class.
When I thirteen I began to get acne. And when I mean began, I mean that I was completely ambushed. I had no idea how to deal with pimples. I felt like I was the only person who was suffering from it. Completely confused on what to do I begged my mom to buy me make up, so I could at least hide it. Lets just say that it didn’t help at all.
My acne is what causes me to not to love myself. Of course I wish my body was different but bigger boobs and butt won’t change much. If my acne and all my scarring was gone I would be so overjoyed. I would actually feel pretty. I wouldn’t dodge mirrors, pictures, worry about my make up or have to avoid people starring.
I hate that I can’t leave the house without make up or that I always have to cover my back. I hate that I can’t get rid of them and most importantly I hate how people are always pointing it out.
The main reason why I have always had problems accepting myself is because I’m always trying to get rid of it. Can you blame me…? When people are always mentioning to me what I need to try or do that will get rid of them. Never have I heard that you are beautiful the way you are. That they can accept me and love me without trying to change me.
I wanted to let you know that if you are suffering from self esteem issues or even body issues that you really are beautiful! You are amazing the way you are! I’m not telling you this just to be nice but because I know that there were plenty of times I needed to hear it.
The way I work through it is:
1. Stop COMPARING yourself to others.
2. Stop putting yourself down.
3. Make a list of thing you love about yourself. If this is to hard have a close friend do it and when those thoughts come look at it.
It honestly is a journey, you will have some good days and some bad. I know its going to be hard but I promise there will be a light at the end of the tunnel.